It’s a very, very common occurrence for parents. You’re out with your kid, having a good time (hopefully) and it’s been a long enough time that you need to change their diaper.
If you’re a mom it’s pretty simple. You take your kid in the bathroom and there’s a 95% chance that there’s going to be a changing table there. You plop the kid down on the table, wham bam thank you diaper, and you’re on your way.
As a dad, however, when I have to take Isaac to change his diaper, I’m looking at probably a 2% chance there’s going to be a changing table. So you know what I do? I find a place to change his diaper and really don’t care where it is or who can see it. You don’t want to see me changing my kid’s diaper in your establishment? Put a changing table in the men’s room and we have a deal.
But there are some places where I expect more from them.
One place is at church. They recently redid the men’s restroom, but didn’t put in a changing table. I was hopeful they would, but my hopes were dashed when I saw the finished product. Now it’s up to me to mention my feelings to the pastor and see if they’ll do anything about it.
The second place, and this one shocked me, is The Motherhood Center. Erin went to prenatal yoga last weekend, so Isaac and I went and ran some errands. We came back to pick her up and I went up to change his diaper. There wasn’t a single doubt in my mind as I opened the door to their restroom that there would be a changing table…and yet there wasn’t. I understand it’s called The MOTHERHOOD Center, but I just assumed that it would be family friendly enough to have changing tables in both restrooms. Silly me.
Now this post isn’t just about complaining that there aren’t changing tables in enough men’s rooms (though there definitely aren’t), but rather realizing the need for men to speak up about it. I’ve been bothered that the restroom at church doesn’t have a changing table for months, yet have done nothing about it. I could have said something at The Motherhood Center, but I didn’t. In order to make any changes at all, we’re going to need to speak up.